Well, in my going to bars days...I stuck by my friends only for safety reasons....once I felt comfortable in my surroundings..I mingled. I am not shy by any means...quite confident, as well. I am fine in a roomful of strangers.
I dont frequent bars anymore......and if I do , I am with my husband. if I am not, I am at a table with the women I have gone with. If I get hit on, I flash the wedding ring and a smile......I never let men buy me drinks.....sends the wrong signal. I dont let women buy me drinks either, Photo.
Not that you would buy me a drink since I have such a heinous ass face with wrinkles and Botox gone bad eyes.
-- Edited by Bread Styx at 19:02, 2006-03-06
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When I go out with my friends, we tend to stick together at one table, chatting away. We get up and go dance or shoot pool, but we usually stick with the group and mingle from the group.
I rarely ever go out by myself and usually only go out with a few people. I talk to the same people usually and if they have "new" friends, they tend to bring them to the group. I'm not much of a one-on-one mingler....I usually meet new peeps through one of my friends introducing them to the group. I'm not shy by any means, just a bit anti-social I guess...LOL
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And your point is???? Don't have one? Well then shut up and I'll give you one!
Mingle with new people. Its a bar, I am not there to chit chat with my friends in a loud smokey place. I can do that at home or out to eat. We are on a mission and take no prisoners.
I have not gotten to go out to a bar in quite a while, but I got to go tonight....
I mingled with the group that I went with...there were seven men and myself....All of which knows my hubby... and would take care of me if anyone tried anything...
we played pool and etc...and I let them buy me a drink or two... I didn't do anything wild...
Just had a good time and got out of the house.... played some music... and let life's troubles float away for a while....
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Photogrrlz wrote: I always feel stuipd trying to strike up conversations with new folks. Except at work that is different.
Talking is a God given gift and I don't think you should feel stupid doin it. Even if it is a stranger. I will talk to anyone as long as their breath doesn't stink.
Don't really have much to say to strangers. I sit and observe and test the water before I plunge in. If a convo starts and continues......then the convo continues.
I don't go to bars much anymore but when I do, it is when I'm catching up with a friend whom I haven't seen so I pretty much stay entertained with my friend.
This is easy. There are only two reasons to go to bars.
1) You go with buddies to drink. You stick with them. You leave with them. You even fight for them if needed.
2) You go to pick up someone. Then, it's every man (or woman) for themselves. Yes, you can leave them for someone else. In fcat, it's your friends obligation to run interference for you, that is, talk to the ugly chick (or guy).
It all depends on why you go to the bar. Communication is the key.
I agree with SDT, plus one more.. I go to hear bands that I know someone in... guess that falls under the friend's catagory. I used to go to play pool or throw darts.. or even to just dance.... so where do those fall in? (PURE unadulterated FUN !!!!!!)
We have 1 bar here, I would not call it a club. Everyone knows everyone in this town, so it is not really an issue. Most everyone goes to the VFW though, it is more of a club type place because they have a place to dance and stuff.
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