If my hubby slept with someone else he would be in deep shit! I don't play the cheating game, I am a one-on-one kind of person, no exceptions.
My reasons: I don't want to catch anything (STD). I don't want some chick claiming she's pregnant.
My #1 reason: I believe if you love someone, you only make love with that someone PERIOD. If you aren't happy or get bored, move on, but don't fuck with the other person's heart and mind by cheating on them! I have never cheated, but I have been cheated on and i fucking hate it! I hate the way it makes me second guess myself, and I hate the way it makes me feel when i look in the mirror after knowing they cheated!
You can't have your cake and eat it too! You are either happy with the one you love or you aren't, inwhich case you should be mature enough to move on instead of play childish "highschool" games with a person's emotions!
If it's just about sex for you than you were already fucked up when you started the aledged relationship!
-- Edited by KatScratch at 01:16, 2006-06-24
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If my hubby slept with someone else he would be in deep shit! I don't play the cheating game, I am a one-on-one kind of person, no exceptions. My reasons: I don't want to catch anything (STD). I don't want some chick claiming she's pregnant. My #1 reason: I believe if you love someone, you only make love with that someone PERIOD. If you aren't happy or get bored, move on, but don't fuck with the other person's heart and mind by cheating on them! I have never cheated, but I have been cheated on and i fucking hate it! I hate the way it makes me second guess myself, and I hate the way it makes me feel when i look in the mirror after knowing they cheated! You can't have your cake and eat it too! You are either happy with the one you love or you aren't, inwhich case you should be mature enough to move on instead of play childish "highschool" games with a person's emotions! If it's just about sex for you than you were already fucked up when you started the aledged relationship!-- Edited by KatScratch at 01:16, 2006-06-24
Very well said Kat...and my thoughts too.
I dont want to even open the door for the std crap, and the mentaal things that go on after the fact........................that is more painful then going through the finding out. and that is pretty damn painful.
I have been cheated on, and I never want that agian. I am work with a lady now that got her BF cheating and now, 14 years later he STILL hasny married her.
I dont trust her since I found that out. It says alot about the personal charater and interagty. She has none and it shows now in other ways.
Its a said fact that what is being played out in the media right now with bradgelina and all- its like becasuse of who she is , and who he is its ok. ITS NOT.
I think she has no morals and I personlly hope that some how some where some one takes freom her what she took from Jen A.
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If you and your wife,hubbie whatever have a agreement that both can play on the side then its not cheating. However, if there is no agreement then its a problem.
The reason? I don't cheat when I'm in a committed relationship, he shouldn't either. If he wants some strange, he should tell me goodbye first. I've never been good at sharing.
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If I were in a relationship...yes, I'd be mad. Or more likely, hurt. I would not cheat..flirt, yes...cheat, no. I would expect the same from my significant other. In my next relationship...I want to FEEL loved and important to the man I'm with. If he's doing other women...nope, just won't cut it for me. I want to be his one and only. Now, a threesome once in awhile....maybe...
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Photogrrlz wrote: Your gf, bf, partner, husband, wife spouse slept with another person? What is the reasoning behind your answer?
I would feel very betrayed, dissappointed, hurt, not mad.
reasoning? been there, done that including the STD's that were brought back home to me and our marriage bed, and that is how I felt. Worthless, used, taken advantage of, duped, lied to and decieved, disrespected, that even though I had given my all that my all just wasnt ever going to be good enough. Top that off with the mind games that I was "just immagining things " and that my spouse told me that I "was just going to have to trust" my spouse on this one.
Photogrrlz wrote: Your gf, bf, partner, husband, wife spouse slept with another person? What is the reasoning behind your answer?
Fuck no, Free Love.
I used to feel that way. My ex and I were swingers. All was well, then one day, she wanted to be able to swing, but wanted me to stop. Then she kept swinging behind my back. Then she moved out and married her "good friend". She was a real bitch...
Hmm, guess I'm a weirdo then... As my answer is no.
If she feels the need to do something with someone else that's ok with me as long as I know what's going on...
But then again, I'm Polyamorous.
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Da Po po wrote: I used to feel that way. My ex and I were swingers. All was well, then one day, she wanted to be able to swing, but wanted me to stop. Then she kept swinging behind my back. Then she moved out and married her "good friend". She was a real bitch...
Sounds like you need a...
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I am not into wife swaping or anything of the sort. Not my thing. To each thier own, just leave me out of it.
I would not cheat, and I expect the same out of a spouse. I don't see it as an insecurity thing, but more of mental and physical dedication to the other.
I am not into wife swaping or anything of the sort. Not my thing. To each thier own, just leave me out of it.
I would not cheat, and I expect the same out of a spouse. I don't see it as an insecurity thing, but more of mental and physical dedication to the other.
I agree. If I've made a mental and emotional investment, I'll honor it, and expect the same from my SO.
-- Edited by phoenixrose at 22:06, 2006-10-14
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I am not into wife swaping or anything of the sort. Not my thing. To each thier own, just leave me out of it.
I would not cheat, and I expect the same out of a spouse. I don't see it as an insecurity thing, but more of mental and physical dedication to the other.
well said.
thers jsut too much mental damage that goes with the cheats
nd it says everything about tht person..the cheater and the one they cheat with
I am not into wife swaping or anything of the sort. Not my thing. To each thier own, just leave me out of it.
I would not cheat, and I expect the same out of a spouse. I don't see it as an insecurity thing, but more of mental and physical dedication to the other.
What? No fuckin pic to go with it? You are slacking, buttmunch.
I think you have to take in the dynamics of the relationship, and the personalities of the indaviduals, and what each person is looking for. What one person views as cheating, another may not. For me it's about whether or not you want a commitment. When you have determined that you want to be with someone, and I mean really be with someone, you have to make a commitment. I think that you get to a point where you have to decide what you really want. Do you want sex.? Or do you want to share your life with someone? And be willing to make that leap of faith? Even early in a relationship it's possible to do a lot of damage to that relationship if you elect to be too social with other people. But on the other hand, a person dosn't walk into sombody else's life, and expect instant change either. It would be disappointing, and confusing to me to be starting something with someone and her say: "I think you should sleep with other people." That would scare me. Whether she was still having sexual partners at that stage or not. Having 'other' sexual partners will eventually break down trust. At least it did for me, over time. I guess I'm just not that casual about it. On the other hand I have had friends with priviages. That is okay, as long as both partys understand it is what it is. But you have to be honest about it. I hope all of this didn't put you to sleep, or worse show how old fashioned I am about some things. But there it is.
fuck yes i would. ohh hell no ... id be more then pissed ... id do what i did to emilys dad lmao. anyhow if you are with someone you shouldnt cheat. if u do why the hell r u with em. also how would they feel if u did it ti them. hence if u feel the need to cheat break off the relationship. relationship=between 2 people not 2 people +1+2+3 ect. anyhow thats my opinions and opinions are like assholes everyone has one.
yes! I am very protective of my loved ones and I would take that as a slap in the face and i just mite have to smack a bitch. "WAYNE BRADDY"S GONA HAVE TA SLAP A BITCH"
And your point is???? Don't have one? Well then shut up and I'll give you one!
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