As is seen all over society, when a male sleeps around he is considered a pimp or a cool guy. However, when a girl does it. She is looked down on and considered a ho. I dont see how this can be fair. In this day and age is it really wrong for a female to enjoy sex and not be in a relationship? If so, why can males do it?
Your thoughts?
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It's not fair that the perceptions are different, even though the behavior isn't. I view the behavior as the same, whether it's a man or a woman, and don't think any differently of a woman who does it than I do of a man.
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oh yes, you must always satisfy the monkey. Strong and Beautiful smells like a monkey
Men have been and are viewed as the "warriors, hunters & gatherers". Part of their persona involves the perception of "conquering". When a man sleeps around it is sometimes called a conquest..... It's thought of as cool and even revered by other men, much like a battle fought and won.....simple analogy, but accurate.
Women on the other hand have been viewed as sensitive, emotional and care-givers. This has put them as a "weaker sex" and not a warrior or conqueror. For a woman to step outside the box and speak freely and move freely may be the norm of today, but go back a few generations and she would have been beaten! Although times have changed, some "old school" views haven't. No man wants to see the essence of a woman liberated.....it kills the ideal feminine view that men have in the back of their mind when they look at a woman and imagine a future mother of their children? They don't want a "hooker" playing mom and teaching her behavior to their children?
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As is seen all over society, when a male sleeps around he is considered a pimp or a cool guy. However, when a girl does it. She is looked down on and considered a ho. I dont see how this can be fair. In this day and age is it really wrong for a female to enjoy sex and not be in a relationship? If so, why can males do it?
Your thoughts?
Well Guys....I don't see why so many make it such a big deal....I don't think it is fair either...A women should be able to enjoy sex with out being make to feel like a slut or a ho...
Women can't even talk about it without being frond upon...
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I see it as personal worth. If you are okay with your sexual past times than who cares what other people think? I am 30 and can count on both hands who i have had sex with, less than 10 is a good number I feel. I do not use people for sex, so I am okay with it. Times are changing and life is getting a little quicker, I would not pass up the chance to be intimate with someone just because people thought it was the "wrong" thing to do. As long as you are safe about it and fess up to your responsibilities of it, fuck it. It's not like "it" wears out, that only happens a little after squeezing out kids. LOL. That even fixes it'sself.
Casual sex? I tried that once many single moons ago ...felt sorry for the guy because he was just so enchanted by something he claimed I possessed. (Breasts, maybe) Whatever; he just wanted sex and I was game..I was only 21 and he bought me booze and dinner. Why not? The whole story is weird, if you should want a topic for a horror movie...its right out of Lifetime TV.
The moron called me everyday after that one night... at least 5 times a day......left messages, would not let me go when I had dance practice.....he was insane. I ended up lying to him telling my boyfriend and I were back together and that I was pregnant. Crap...he shows up at my dorm wanting me to take a paternity test to make sure it was my ex-boyfriends. Serves me right for lying, I guess.
No casual sex for me, thank you very much.....
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"The life given us by nature is short; but the memory of a well-spent life is eternal." -Cicero
I never have understood the diference that exists between women and men. MIB is right. Why would there be one standard for women and another for guys??
I think that women need to be equal to guys! We are all the same, the only differences are superficial! Just she has these and that, does the way she thinks make her a bad person?
Casual sex? I tried that once many single moons ago ...felt sorry for the guy because he was just so enchanted by something he claimed I possessed. (Breasts, maybe) Whatever; he just wanted sex and I was game..I was only 21 and he bought me booze and dinner. Why not? The whole story is weird, if you should want a topic for a horror movie...its right out of Lifetime TV.
The moron called me everyday after that one night... at least 5 times a day......left messages, would not let me go when I had dance practice.....he was insane. I ended up lying to him telling my boyfriend and I were back together and that I was pregnant. Crap...he shows up at my dorm wanting me to take a paternity test to make sure it was my ex-boyfriends. Serves me right for lying, I guess.
No casual sex for me, thank you very much.....
See, Bread, that's why you should always be honest. You should've told him he was a lousy lay, and you hated the sight of him.
I don't know. As I've gotten older, my attitude changed a little. I can't see the point of one night stands at this day and age. With the threat of AIDS, and other nasty little diseases running around. No thanks. It's been my experience that people who feel the need to sleep around(males as well as females) do so because they have some type of issues. Some people do it because they can't form deeper relationships for whatever reason. I don't think it's any better for guys to do it than women. It demeans us both. I know that there's a lot of joking and playing around on this and other sites but all kidding aside, when I see it from either side, it makes me a little sad for the other person. I also think there are people that do it because of the attention. For that brief moment in time they have the other's full attention. I know some do it for control. The more people they sleep with, the more control of others they feel they have. Think about it though: Would you want to be with somone that you knew was promiscuous? Whether it be a guy or a girl?
I also think things have changed. Granted there are still some men that want to sleep around as much as they can and the guys who think its okay. More and more people are getting worried about what diseases are out there are the bad things that can happen. Maybe its because I am getting older and the people I hang around with are maturing though and thats the change in attitude.
I am 27 and I also can count the number of partners on two hands. Sometimes I feel bad about even that! I wouldn't want to get serious with a man who has been a "slut" and who has been with lot of women. With that being said I think a more than a few sexual relationships are healthy. I wouldn't want to be with a man who had only been with 0-1 (maybe even 2) others besides me.
oh yes, you must always satisfy the monkey. 
And your point is???? Don't have one? Well then shut up and I'll give you one!
See, Bread, that's why you should always be honest. You should've told him he was a lousy lay, and you hated the sight of him.
