Hey there.....I am posting this in here to avoid comments from token morons in the other site. You know who I mean. I am just no in the mood.
I went to the doctor yesterday because I just didnt "feel right" They could not find the baby's heartbeat and I miscarried..2 weeks ago from the measurements of the embryo. It was very sad to see my baby, but no hearbeat..I didnt know what to think as I stared at the image on the screen...just hoping the heart beat was hidden behind tissue or something. No such luck.
I started feeling the increase of pain and have a few other symptoms once I got home...but nothing I cant handle. I would rather nature take its course than have the D & C I may have to have if I dont naturally expel all the fetal tissue on my own.
God help me, I had an awful night and I feel pretty crummy. The physical pain I can handle....I am not so sure about the other pain in my heart.
I will pm the few members from the other site hat arent here.... who have asked me about my pregnancy ...so they dont ask me in a thread or something.
I know someone will make me laugh in here...I need it.
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Thanks, Yall. I will be ok....its just a matter of resting and waiting and making sure nothing warrants a visit to the hospital.....I have family and friends who are ready to help me.
Its nice having friends....oh, and Buttercup...great monkey outfit....thanks for the laugh.
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Just your well wishes is enough said. This has happened to me before and I know what to expect, but its different with a 3 year old running around asking why I am crying or why "other stuff" she sees is happening to me. you know how much privacy a mother of a preschooler has, huh? None!
It looks like this is going to happen on its own..God help me.....it really hurts.....
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I am so truly sorry I feel the pain you are going through.. ihave been in your shoes on january 15 of 2000... I am so sorry hun... The pain is harsh i wish i could be there to help you ... If i was closer i would be there in a heart beat . I am so sorry hun ... kepp in mind this always helped me that i will see my baby again. You are in my prayers. Much love.
My husband is a prick and he surely does not know how to offer his sympathy or help without having to be told point blank. I am getting more well -wishes and offers of help from people I barely know.
Is this how some men take bad news or something?
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Styx.... I'm so sorry. I can't even imagine what you're going through. I'll be sending good thoughts your way.... and some flowers
As for your husband..... we all know men can be big oafs. Like Buttercup said... he may not know how to react. Men seem to handle things in their own way.... which often conflicts with what women need/want.
Icecold is right, quite often men do respond differently than women and I know that the situation is difficult for him also. If you have to tell him what you need, by all means do it. If you have to grab him by the collar and shake him, do that too.
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oh yes, you must always satisfy the monkey. Strong and Beautiful smells like a monkey
I told him what I needed, but he has to be given detailed explanation..he cant just figure it out. He knew I was having a hard time getting around the house and he brought me some thing I asked him for. He failed to bring some work home so he could stay and help me......when I asked him to stay, he said he couldnt. We got into a big fight when I called him after he left and he hung up on me when I told him I needed him to take care of me....and if that was too hard then he should just tell me so I could just fend for myself. That pissed him off.
Before he left he called me a baby and I told him, "Yes, I am a baby....you just dont know how to take care of me."
Such troubled souls we are, huh?
He is taking the day off tomorrow....which is good, I guess. I can rest.
......I guess he just reacts like that beause he is scared. He is totally diferent frm the man I knew when I had the accident 10 years ago.....guess his compassion ran out then, huh?
-- Edited by Styx at 16:05, 2006-02-02
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Sometimes, Styx, it scares the hell out of you when you can't make things right for someone that you love and all you can do is stand by and watch it happen and hope that things end up ok. And fear manifests itself differently in everyone.
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oh yes, you must always satisfy the monkey. Strong and Beautiful smells like a monkey
Sorry to hear about this sad news, but God does have a plan for everyone out there. Just like PCW said, you well see your baby later on in life. God Bless,
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Im so very sorry for your loss. ITs a huge heartbreak for anyone, and even after you see the baby its even more heatbreaking.
as for your husband, everyone grieves differantly. My experince with the males are that they withdrawl and kinda get "bitchy" so to speak. He is probly differant like you said before, now he see the child and knows the loss and the pain of this again.
I really dont know the pain as Ive never been in your shoes, but Im praying for ya.
btw.....kiss you kid up for me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Styx, honey, words can't express how I feel for you right now. I have been there and the emotional pain is terrible. I am a true believer that God has a plan, and even if you can't figure out how it fits right now, there is a reason.
My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family....
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All the girls stomp your feet like this...
Oooh, this my shit, this my shit
I am feeling better today....typical aches and pains, but nothing I cant handle. My sister and her hubby visited to help out with the munchkin and to just be with me. I laughed a bit and even got out of the house because I just couldnt stand staying in. I get a little sad from time to time, but my goofy child notices and does something to make me laugh. It helps ..really.
I will be o.k. I just found out that a friend of ours just found out that they are having a baby girl. We didnt even know she was pregnant and they didnt know what happened to us. When I read the email about their great info.....I smiled. My reaction helps me know I will be ok.
Thanks again!
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That got me smiling.....thanks! My husband is a prick and he surely does not know how to offer his sympathy or help without having to be told point blank. I am getting more well -wishes and offers of help from people I barely know. Is this how some men take bad news or something?
Hey kiddo, I offfer my my condolences to you and the prick Was that humorus enough. Sooo sorry to hear about your loss.
Unfortunately guys do handle things differently, its our programming, in time he will at the right time say the right things
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Well, my husband is acting normal, now. I guess the initial shock has worn off. He has never been a very affectionate man, but does other things that shows me he cares. So, I will stop bitching about it.....I think he acts that way so he does not lose it. No sense in having 2 basketcases in the house..someone has to take care of our daughter.
Well, I went to the doctor today. She says everything looks like its starting to look normal, but was not too thrilled about me being dizzy and some pain I am having and I had to let them take blood for tests for anemia(like I can spare any blood after all I lost) and the pregnancy hormone....I get an ultrasound on Thursday to make sure the baby is all gone. Great! I am feeling better and then feeling like crap.
I am just so tired of not knowing how I am going to feel.
I just need my mommy......
-- Edited by Styx at 16:16, 2006-02-07
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I'm so sorry about your baby! That must be an awful thing to experience.
I'm glad your hubby seems to be coming around. As others have said, people express grief in different ways, and you know he is grieving the loss of his child, just as you are.
I hope you continue to feel better every day. My prayers are with you.
oh yes, you must always satisfy the monkey. 
And your point is???? Don't have one? Well then shut up and I'll give you one!
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Like Buttercup said... he may not know how to react. Men seem to handle things in their own way.... which often conflicts with what women need/want. 
Was that humorus enough. Sooo sorry to hear about your loss. 
