ok, I'm not pissed so the PO sections off. But I am however confused.
MY mother , as stated days ago is moving. She went to place her prorated rent down and the apartment will be ready tomorrrow they said. Now my Mom is on this roll of she needs to wash out the cabnits before she places her dishes and other itemas in there. I told her (many times ) that they will clean the apartment before she moves in, so therefore its not needed.
Today she tells me she will start moving friday, after she washes out the cabnits on thursday, and that saturday would be a good day to help her move. Then she tells me that she will call the movers tomorrow (thursday) to move the furinure on marh 28. She has also packed NOTHING.....i was told
WTF???!!! I have told my mother that I am NOT planning on helping her move this time. I suggested (and she did) the 2 weeks moving so as not to get into a huge problem moving or running out of time. Then she has not even calle dthe movers to see about the pricing on the heavy stuff, we are moving every thing but her heavy furinture, and thus she only needs one run really.
Im going on strike.
BTW- thurday...tomoroow is one year to the day that my mom got released from the hospital, my dad was at aphysical rehab center after his first stroke, and the 19th is the day I returned from my vacation and left my job.
I have worked at an apartment complex...we had an awesome housekeeping staff and my boss wanted the apts to look brand new for move in. That is rare and you dont even want to know what stuff is cleaned out of move-outs. Its not a bad idea to clean those cabinets.
Is your mom moving from a house to an apartment and making a change to be closer to you due to her health? I dont know the whole story, but it sounds an awful lot like my parents situation. My parents live about 6 hours from 4 of us and they just need to be closer.They cant be alone in my hometown anymore......each of them have taken a few falls...only one broken bone, but it was enough to scare us.
Your mom sounds like she is not doing anything because she probably does not want to make a change she needs to make for her own good. She needs your support even though it may be maddening for you, at times. My dad has always been the planner ...delegator type and my mom has always done what she had to do accomplish a goal set by my father. Well, dad is making rash decisions now in his old age and mom just moves at a snails pace now and is depressed that she has to leave her home and depend on her children for co much help. That may change once we get there and start organizing stuff and moving them out. She has called movers to get estimates, my brothers is taking care of the mortgage info for the move out and sale of the house and my sisters and I will be there next week to access and pack and toss.....and give away. It will be sad for me as I grew up in that house.....I understand how my mom feels. I am a bit teary-eyed just thinking about it now......
Do you have any help from siblings or even friends who can help you. Its a tough job.....I know all about that. I know its frustrating, but your mom sounds like she needs a lot of your help......she sounds quite sad. You know I would help you if I was there only because I know what you are going through.
I lived in your neck of Texas for many years...is your mom there with you?
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First off, she is not being placed in assisted living or a nursing home. She had a mental break down while my father was in the hospital last year. Not eating right, not sleeping for almost a week and only going home to shower and return took its toll. She completely recovered at this point. She has mobilaty inpairments right now due to other medical issues but is mentally and physically ok.
She is moving from her apartment that I got her when dad was dying, knowing that she could not handle living in the house, and should not live there alonoe. She went from a 4 bed room, 2 bath, almost 3000 square feet to a 550 square foot apartment. Thats a huge space loss. She has been slowly moving out of the house and her storage that she ahs had for the past years. (before they got married, she had her own house the one I grew up in. She and dad married in 2000. (I call him dad becasue he is really the only father figure I have ever had, and has never treated me any differantly then his other children.) Thus she has boxes all over her place and has to go half way through a place then shift to get the rest of the way through. SHe definatly needs the space. the apartmetns that she is moving to is under the same mangerer that has been there for 20 + years.
Had lunch with her today, feeling better. going to sign her lease tomorrow and start moving. SHe is ok with me not doing anyting until weekend after next, and then helping with what she needs help with. SHe ahs called the movers and they will move her. she ois moving 3 blocks way so she is moving most of her stuff, little by little.
thanks for the thoughts and ideas. No I will not be placing her anywhere else unless I have to.
today is one year since her release. April 11 is one year since Dad died. so................
Oh goodness Texas.....I know first hand how tough that is. I am sorry about your daddy ...
I know how much stuff parents have after so long. My parents have 55 years worth of stuff from kids, grandkids, their stuff..etc....the idea of sorting through that all make us all sad. While overwhelming, we just dont know what to keep or give away.
My nephew is down there right now.....that was the first home he lived in for a few months after he was born and my mom took care of him when he was 2 ....so the house has some memories for him too.
I am glad things are looking a little better for you and your mom......my parents should live in an apt or townhome now, but mom wants a house and we are having a difficult time convincing her that is not the way to go.......they will keep their things in storage and stay with my sister and her husband until they find a place....God help them all...that will be tough.
Good luck....you all will be in my prayers.
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